Burying
As the relationship becomes more stable and the major problems are worked through, the burying stage ensues. This stage happens when all the to-do lists of life come toppling into the relationship and before you know it, conversations are focused on things like who’s doing the laundry, your boss, or the crazy mother-in-law. During the burying stage, other “more important things” begin to encroach on the intimate relationship bubble.
This is isn’t necessarily a bad thing though; it’s a sign that the relationship is real and weaves into your everyday existence. No more are the long letters filled with lustful thoughts and grand romantic statements, but rather the cute notes reminding your partner that their lunch is in the fridge become front and center. These are the kinds of love notes that are simple, but bring ease and comfort into the relationship. Although usually disposable or overlooked, these notes casually remind the partner of the underlying love that is constantly present that may otherwise not be stated during their hectic everyday life.
To the left are examples of how Jeff and Lisa Cronk integrated writing love notes into their busy, everyday lives. The first note is a sweet encouragement letter written by Jeff to Lisa wishing her good luck on her first day. It ends with “P.S. I’ll clean the kitchen when I get home”. This note shows Jeff reminding Lisa of his love for her during a possibly stressful and nerve-filled day and showing his support of her by cleaning the kitchen so that it’s not one more thing she has to worry about. The next note is written by Lisa in which she lets her husband know there is food for him in the fridge, that she loves him, and that she is so thankful for how hard he works. Acknowledgment, affection, and appreciation after a long day of work keep a relationship strong. It’s the little moments amidst the chaos that can be the most special.